I'm looking for people who have lupus or firsthand experience with it.?

i was adopted but know that my biological mother died of lupus. i never really worried about it because up till recently i have been very healthy (and because i have never had a erfly rash). i am now 21 years old and worried. i will list my symptoms: weakness/fatigue that makes even walking into an olympic sport, hard to breath, leg craps that wake me up at night, nausea, shaky, constant mouth and nose sores, constant headaches, knee, ankle, finger, toe, elbow, and wrist pain, and mood swings like you wouldn't believe! while i have never had the "erfly rash" , i now have a weird itchy burning flaky rash like thing on my left eyelid. the only reason i have held off going to the dr. is because i don't have a. the erfly rash and b. health insurance. i will go however if i can find proof that you can have lupus without the rash. please don't judge me for not going to the dr. i just lost my job and can't afford a hospital bill. and out here in CO i cant find a doctor who will see me without insurance. thank you in advanced for all your help.