Okay. Seriously, now. Are new mothers REALLY the cause of every fight at home directly after having a baby?

So, here's the story. The BF ( we will, from this point onward, refer to him as the Toad) is TIRED of hearing about being hormonal and thinks I should get over myself. The FACTS: i had twins 18 days ago. I'm a friggin mess. I'm up all night and all day with the twins and he gets to sleep every night. It pisses me off. And, YES, I'm HORMONAL~~and am on Wellbutrin. But, HE is a toad, for God's sake. i mean, really. If he doesn't want me to call him extremely bad profane names, he shouldn't call ME an a$$ hole, right?Tell me what you think... am I over hormonal, or just a drama queen, or what? Oh, AND I have a 3 yr old that is NOT adjusting well AND the twins are sick and have not slept in three days. Helpful advice would be appreciated, because i'm at the end of my rope and I've been crying since yesterday.