Maid of Honor question... HELP please 10points?

I think you should continue to be there for the bride and help her as much a you can. If she doesn't want to label someone the MOH, don't force the issue. She will see all that you have done, and will continue to do for her and appreciate it. If she wants to make you her MOH she will do it on her own. If not, don't hold it against her. Sounds like you are a really good friend/sister in law and I am sure she is grateful for everything you are doing.